I Don’t Have it Together (And That’s the Point)

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If you’re looking for someone who has it all perfectly figured out…

hi.

It’s not me.

And honestly? That’s kind of the whole point of this space.

For a long time, my life did not look cute or put together, especially in my twenties and the majority of my thirties. After I had my girls (a little too young), I spent years (and I mean years) feeling like I was just trying to keep my head above water.

From about age 23 to 35, I was broke in every sense of the word.

Financially stretched.
Emotionally drained.
Mentally overwhelmed.
Spiritually tired.

I wore the title of “struggling single mom” like it was stitched into my skin.

And listen… some of it was real. Life was hard. Money was tight. I was raising two little humans on my own while trying to figure myself out at the same time.

But here’s the part that took me way too long to admit:

I was also stuck in a victim mindset.

Whew. Yeah. I said it.

Back then, it didn’t feel like victim mentality. It felt justified. It felt true. It felt like life was just happening to me. Like everyone else got the instruction manual and I somehow missed the meeting where they handed it out.

I told myself stories like:

  • “Things are just harder for me.”
  • “Nothing ever works out for me.”
  • “This is just my season.”

And while some of that was valid… some of it was also keeping me small.

The Shift That Changed Everything

My life didn’t change overnight.

There was no magical Monday where I woke up and suddenly became organized, wealthy, healed, hydrated, and unbothered. (If you find that program, please send the link! I’m still interested.)

What changed first was my mindset.

Slowly… uncomfortably… sometimes kicking and screaming… I started questioning the stories I had been telling myself for years.

What if I wasn’t stuck?

What if I wasn’t behind?

What if I wasn’t just the overwhelmed mom trying to survive?

What if I could actually build something, even while my life still looked messy?

But it was not until someone believed in me more than I believed in myself that something shifted.

Why “A Functional Hot Mess”?

Because let me be very clear:

I am still figuring things out.

I am still juggling a million roles.
I am still healing parts of myself that didn’t get the memo that we’re grown now.
I am still working on consistency, boundaries, and not leaving everything until the last minute.

But I am also:

* building
* learning
* evolving
* and showing up anyway

This blog is not about pretending life is perfect.

It’s about what happens when you are:

  • ambitious but overwhelmed
  • grateful but tired
  • healing but still triggered sometimes
  • successful in some areas and a complete hot mess in others

Sound familiar?

Yeah… I thought so.

If You’re Here…

If you’ve ever felt behind…

If you’ve ever looked around and thought,
“How is everyone else managing life better than me?”

If you’re building something while still working through your own growth…

You are in the right place.

Around here, we keep it honest.

We talk about the glow-up and the breakdowns.
The wins and the messy middle.
The plans and the days where nothing goes according to plan.

Because you don’t have to have it all together to start becoming who you’re meant to be.

Trust me.

I’m living proof.

Welcome to A Functional Hot Mess.

M.E.